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The following message comes on behalf of Mental Health Coalition – Sierra Leone and their project, Reaching Out to Those Affected by Mental Illness:
Today marks the start of giving and its #GivingTuesday. In line with that, the Mental Health Coalition – Sierra Leone and in collaboration with the Social Work Sierra Leone are reaching out to the #mentallyill patients, in the length and breadth of #Freetown, #Sierra Leone, with a heart of #love, #empathy and to treat them with dignity and respect.
This will create an atmosphere of trust and confidence, after long time of neglect, among the patients, their parents/guidance, the social workers and the mental health nurses, which will also lead to improved care and wellness and enables them to be reintegrated into Society and their communities for better productivity & increase wealth.
Remember the #WHO quotes state that: There is no #health without Mental Health and health (which include mental health), is #HumanRight.
Thanks for your #support.
MH Coalition Chairman
Donation towards the #feeding of the #mentallyill patients in the street of #Freetown by the social workers will kick start on the 27th November, 2018 on the Global Giving platform. Please support this worthy cause to build trust and relationship between the service providers and service users. Thanks.
Continuous Clinical Professional Development (CCPD) is a an initiative introduced by the Enabling Access to Mental Health Program in Sierra Leone – A EU funded project. CCPD was designed to provide ongoing capacity enhancement of service providers (mainly the District Mental Health Nurses) in a bid to increase evidence based service delivery at their respective districts.
The Building Back Project and other partners saw the effectiveness of such skill development for the District Mental Health Nurses and have maintained the practice over the years.
A two prong approach is being employed in conducting Continuous Clinical Professional Development for the Mental Health Nurses.
1. Regular Support Visits at the districts of operation
Evidence based care, networking skills, data collection and a stronger relationship with the district pharmacists was increased as a result of the supervision conducted by volunteers and collaborating partners (KSLP & WHO). A systematic monitoring process of the work of the MH Nurses, case management (Patient assessment) and lessons learnt from CCPD workshop are been reinforced during these visits.
2. Quarterly Meetings (CCPD)
The relevance of CCPD cannot be overemphasized as over the years it has:
– Enhanced knowledge, attitude and practice for effective service delivery.
– Empowered the mental health nurses to keep up with best practices and being up to date with changing trends (more so with community mental health service provision).
– Provided a forum where difficult cases are discussed – hence helping colleague nurses learning new approaches to care.
During the BBB Project implementation period, Regular District Support visits and CCPD were held in collaboration with Kings Sierra Leone Partnership (KSLP) and an average of 18 mental health nurses had been attending – this does not include other service providers like the Child and Adolescent Mental Health Nurses and Community Health Officers.
Continuous Clinical Professional Development (CCPD) over the years have attracted professionals in the field of Mental Health whose technical skills have helped the mental health nurses acquire new skills in doing their work. Other major highlights of the CCPD included though not limited to:
- Experience sharing on case management to ensure appropriate care for Clients.
- Facilitate networking opportunities between themselves, senior MoHS management, WHO MHPSS Focal Person, local Psychiatrist, Supervisors from BBB and KSLP.
- Reinforcing skills on basic MH principles of assessment, medication and subsequent care of patients.
DEFINITION OF COMMUNICATION:
- Is a two-way process of reaching mutual understanding, in which participants do not only exchange (encode-decode) information, news, ideas and feelings but also create and share meanings
- In general, communication is a means of connecting people or places
- As an information age, messages are sent, received and processed numbers of messages every day
WHAT IS EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION
- Is more than just exchanging information; it’s about understanding the emotion behind the information
- We are able to express ourselves, verbally and non-verbally, in ways that are appropriate to our cultures and our situations.
- This means being able to express opinions and desires, but also needs and fears.
- It means being able to ask for advice and help in a time of need
BENEFITS OF EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION:
Effective Communication can:
- Improve relationships at home, work, and in social situations as it deepens your connections to others
- Improve teamwork, decision-making and problem-solving
- Enable you to communicate even negative or difficult messages without creating conflict destroying trust
- Combine a set of skills including non-verbal communication, attentive listening, the ability to manage stress in the moment, and the capacity to recognize and understand your own emotions and those of the person you are communicating with
- As it is a learned skill, it is more effective when it is spontaneous rather than formulated. For example, a speech that is read does not have the same impact as a speech that is delivered
- It takes time and effort to develop these skills and become effective communicator
- The more effort and practice you put in, the more instinctive and spontaneous your communication skills will become.
EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION SKILLS:
There are four major effective communication skills. They are:
- Non-verbal communication
- Managing stress
- Emotional awareness
It is the most important aspect of effective communication. To become a successful listener, it means you don’t just understand the words or the information being communicated, but also understand how the speaker feels about what they are communicating.
Effective listening can:
- Make the speaker feel heard and understood. This can help build a stronger, deeper connection between you.
- Create an environment where everyone feels safe to express ideas, opinions, and feelings, or plan and problem solve in creative ways
- Save time by helping clarify information, avoid conflicts and misunderstanding
- Relieve negative emotions.
Quick stress relief for effective communication
When stress strikes, you can’t always temper it by taking time out to mediate or go for a run, especially if you’re in the middle of a meeting with your boss or an argument with your spouse, for example. By learning to quickly reduce stress in the moment, though, you can safely face any strong emotions you’re experiencing, regulate your feelings, and behave appropriately. When you know how to maintain a relaxed, energized state of awareness- even when something upsetting happens- you can remain emotionally available and engaged.
When we communicate things that we care about, we do so mainly using nonverbal signals. Wordless communication, or body language, includes facial expressions, body movement and gestures, eye contact, posture, the tone of your voice, and even your muscle tension and breathing. The way you look, listen, move, and react to another person tells them more about how you’re feeling than words alone ever can.
Developing the ability to understand and use nonverbal communication can help you connect with others, express what you really mean, navigate challenging situations, and build better relationships at home and work.
- You can enhance effective communication by using open body language arms uncrossed, standing with an open stance or sitting on the edge of your seat, and maintaining eye contact with the person you’re talking to.
- You can also use body language to emphasize or enhance your verbal message- patting a friend on the back while complimenting him on his success, for example, or pounding your fists to underline your message.
In small groups, stress can help you perform under pressure. However, when stress becomes constant and overwhelming, it can hamper effective communication by disrupting your capacity to think clearly, creatively, and act appropriately. When you’re stressed, you’re more likely to misread other people, thus sending confusing messages. When you find yourself in that situation:
- Be willing to compromise. Sometimes, if you can both bend a little, you’ll be able to find a happy middle ground that reduces the stress levels for everyone concerned. If you realize that the other person cares much more about something than you do, compromise may be easier for you and a good investment in the future of the relationship.
- Agree to disagree, if necessary, and take time away from the situation so everyone can calm down. Take a quick break and move away from the situation. Go for a stroll outside if possible, or spend a few minutes meditating. Physical movement or finding a quiet place to regain your balance can quickly reduce stress.
- Emotions play an important role in the way we communicate at home and work.
- It’s the way you feel, more than the way you think, that motivates you to communicate or to make decisions.
- The way you react to emotions, such as nonverbal cues affects both how you understand other people and how they understand you.
If you are out of touch with your feelings, and don’t understand how you feel or why you feel that way, you’ll have a hard time communicating your feelings and needs to others.
Emotional awareness provides you the tools needed for understanding both yourself and other people, and the real messages they are communicating to you. Although knowing your own feelings may seem simple, many people ignore or try to sedate strong emotions like anger, sadness, and fear. But your ability to communicate depends on being connected to these feelings. If you’re afraid of strong emotions or if you insists on communicating only on a rational level, it will impair your ability to fully understand others, creatively problem solve, resolve conflicts, or build an affectionate connection with someone.
Interpersonal relationships are those relationships you have with persons that have the same interests and ideals as you have. It is very important for care workers/caregivers to have these skills so that their clients do not feel like a burden
A person with good interpersonal skills is one who:
- get along with others in the work place
- is polite in talking with other people
- is pleasant
- work in a team
- a good listener and
- has a pleasant speaking intonation
INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP SKILLS
- Interpersonal Skills refer to your emotional intelligence of solving problems, managing conflict with people in work place or community as well as your ability to build effective relationship
- It is anything working with other people
- Help us to relate in positive ways with the people we interact with. This may mean being able to make and keep friendly relationship, which can be of great importance to our mental and social well-being.
- It may also mean keeping good relations with family members which are important sources of social supports
- It may also mean being able to end relationship constructive
ARE PEOPLE BORN WITH INTERPERSONAL SKILLS?
No, since they are not born with the understanding that there are other people. However, people are born with the capacity to learn interpersonal skills through observation and emulation which they must do when they are quite young. Children growing without other people around them, cannot be born with this because they are too old.
VARIOUS TYPES OF INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
When two individuals feel comfortable in each other’s company and decide to be with each other, they enter into a relationship.
Individuals who are compatible with each other enter into an interpersonal relationship. People must get well for a strong and healthy/positive relationship (positive/healthy)
Friendship is an unconditional interpersonal relationship where individuals enter into any of their own sweet will and choice.
Friendship is a relationship where there are no formalities and individuals enjoy each other’s presence. Friendship can be between:
- Man and a woman
- Man and man
- Woman and woman
Must have in friendship:
- Transparency is the most essential factor for a stable friendship. Do not hide things from your friends. Be honest to them.
- Guide them whenever required. Never give them any wrong suggestion or advice.
- Feelings like ego, jealousy, hatred, anger do not exist in friendship.
- The entire relationship of friendship revolves around trust and give and take. No relationship can be one sided and same with friendship. Try to do as much as you can for your friends.
An interpersonal relationship characterized by passion, intimacy, trust and respect is called love.
Individuals in a romantic relationship are deeply attached to each other and share a special bond.
Must have in a Romantic Relationship:
- Two partners must trust each other in this relationship.
- A sense of respect and mutual admiration is essential
Partners must reciprocate each other’s feeling for the charm to stay in the relationship for a longer period of time.
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Marriage happens when two individuals in love decide to take their relationship to the next level.
Marriage is a kind of formalized relationship where two individuals after knowing each other well decide to enter the wedlock and stay together life- long through thick and thin.
A relationship between two individuals without any feelings or sexual desire for each other is called a platonic relationship.
In such a relationship might end in romantic relationship with both the partners developing mutual love and falling for each other.
Individuals related by blood or marriage are said to form a family.
PROFESSIONAL RELATIONSHIP (WORK RELATIONSHIP)
Individuals working together for the same organization are said to share a professional relationship.
Individuals sharing a professional relationship are called colleagues. Colleagues may or may not like each other.
CHARACTERISTICS OF INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP
There are different characteristics of interpersonal relationships. These characteristics range from brief to long lasting. They are based on love, friendship, family, kinship, work related, marriage, mutual agreements, neighbourhoods, places of worship and social groups.
WHAT ARE THE IMPORTANCE OF INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP
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- In Relationships
- Is the effective expression of oneself and at the same time standing up for your view point whilst you also respect the rights and beliefs of others
- It is a way of behaving forcefully without ignoring or trampling on the rights of other people
- It is a means that you can confidently but peacefully demonstrate your right or point of view
- The opposite of assertiveness is passiveness
HOW DOES ONE BECOME ASSERTIVE?
One is assertive for the following key points:
1. Assertive as an individual:
- He/she possesses self-confident
- Builds confidence and stands for his/her opinion/decision
2. Assertive in a group:
- You put your points across to the others in a confident and non-aggressive manner
- You recognize other people’s point of view
- Respecting the other group’s ideas and opinions
- Being tolerance of the differences between your group and the other group
- Putting your points across convincingly
3. Assertive on a one-to-one relationship
- Being firm but polite
- You acknowledge and are confident in what you stand for
Benefits of Assertiveness
- It helps to boost one’s self-esteem (explain the meaning of self-esteem)
- You earn respect for others
- It helps to control stress and anger and improve coping skills especially with too many responsibilities because you have a hard time saying no
- It is a core communication skills
- It gives the best chance of successfully delivering your message
- You stand up for your right
- You respect yourself and others
- You are confident but not pushy
Outcomes of Assertiveness:
- It is self-fulfilling
- It makes you escape from trouble
- It prevents teenage and unwanted pregnancies
- Its prevents infections Ebola disease
DIFFERENCES BETWEEN ASSERTIVENESS, PASSIVENESS AND AGGRESSIVENESS
1. Assertive Person:
- States his/her opinions, while still being respectful to others
- Speaks openly
- Uses the conversational tone
- Makes good eye contact
- Shows expressions that match the message
- Relaxes and adopts an open posture and expressions
- Participates in groups
- Speaks to the point
- Values self-equal to others
- Tries to hurt no one including him/herself
- Usually reaches goals without alienating others
- I’m okay, you are okay
2. Passive Person:
- Doesn’t state their opinions at all
- Speaks softly
- Avoids looking at people
- Shows little or no expression
- Moves and withdraws sluggishly
- Isolates self from groups
- Agrees with others, despite feelings
- Values self-less than others
- In a group but dormant
- Hurts self to avoid hurting others
- Does not reach goals and may not know goals
- You’re okay , I’m not
3. Aggressive Person:
- Attacks or ignore others’ opinions in favour of their own
- Interrupts and talks over others
- Speaks loudly
- Glares and stares at others
- Creates fear with expressions
- Stands rigidly, crosses arms, invades others’ personal space
- Controls groups
- Only considers own feelings, and/or demands of others
- Values self-more than others
- Hurts others to avoid being hurt
- Reaches goals but hurts others in the process
- I’m okay, you’re not
- is concern for other people
- it is the ability to see the world as another person, to share and understand another person’s feelings, needs, concerns and/or state emotional
- the ability to put ourselves in someone else’s position
- The ability to see the world through the eyes of those who are different from us. For example: concerns for orphans/survivors, for health workers in general, for their families who have lost loved ones through Ebola, marginalized children, out of school children, children whose parents are very poor, deprived with low self-esteem, war affected and refugee families, Ebola affected and abandoned children, etc.
- It is an innate behavioral quality that can be developed
- It can come naturally to most people
- It possesses good power of imagination to see the world from the perspective of other people
- It is a selfless act
- It enables us to learn more about people
- It is a desirable skill that is beneficial to ourselves, others and society
- Phrases or statements such as: being in your shoes and soul mates are all examples of empathy
- It is compared to spiritual or religious state of connection with other person or group of people
- It is the most advanced of all communication skills
Being empathetic has two components:
- Effective communication (understanding is desired in any communication process)
- Strong imagination (good powers to empathize with others)
DISTINCTION BETWEEN EMPATHY AND SYMPATHY
- The different is that with sympathy, you feel pity or sorry for another person
- While with empathy, you feel with others
- When you empathize, you enjoy better relationship with others and greater being through life.
What is Life Skills?
The concept is not easy to define. Life Skills are terms that do not have one definition. However, some writers have defined Life Skills as:
- “The skills needed by an individual to operate effectively in society in an active and constructive way”
- “Life Skills are personal and social skills required for people to function confidently and competently with themselves, other people, and the wider community”.
- “Life Skills are abilities for adaptive and positive behavior that enable individuals to deal effectively with the demands of everyday life”.
What does life skills in crisis situation important?
It helps individuals to:
- Know their strengths and limitations
- Pursue creative and critical thinking
- become empathetic and coexist amicably with others
- be assertive and have the skills to communicate their thoughts and ideas effectively
- identify, cope and find solutions to difficult or challenging situations – even in crisis situations
Importance of Life Skills:
Life Skills can help young people to:
- make positive healthy choices and avoid risky behavior even at moments of disasters/crisis events
- make informed choices
- resist peer pressure
- form and develop mutual beneficial relationship
Benefits Associated with Life Skills Education include:
- Acquisition of knowledge
- Positive changes in behavior and attitude
- Enhancement of STIs including HIV prevention and other related reproductive health issues
- Enhancement of the prevention of mental health and psychosocial problems during crisis situations like the Freetown mudslide and flooding experience.
Types of Life Skills
Basic life skills includes, though not limited to the following:
- problem solving
- Empathy (concern for others)
- Creative thinking
- Resisting peer pressure
- Effective communication
- Negotiating friendship
- Interpersonal relationship
- Goal setting
- Coping with stress and emotions
What other Skills are confused with Life Skills
In most situations people get confused in understanding life skills from other skills like livelihood skills. It is good to be able to know the difference between these two skills.
These are skills which prepare young people to obtain and keep satisfying job opportunities which include:
- Developing Curriculum Vitae skills
- Job-searching skills
- Interviewing skills
- Effective communication skills
- Entrepreneurial skills
- Marketable skills to enhance functionalism
Life Stills for Psycho social competence
Psycho social competence is a person’s ability to deal effectively with the demands and challenges of everyday life. It is the person’s ability to maintain a state of mental well being and to demonstrate this in adaptive and positive behavior while interacting with others, his/her culture and environment.
Psycho social competence has an important role to play in the promotion of health in its broadest sense; in terms of physical, mental and social well-being. In particular, where health problems are related to behavior, and where the behavior is related to an inability to deal effectively with stresses and pressures in life, the enhancement of psycho social competence could make an important contribution. This is especially important for health promotion at a time when behavior is more and more implicated as the source of health and social problems due to crisis events.
The most direct interventions for the promotion of psycho social competence are those which enhance the person’s coping resources, and personal and social competencies. In school-based programs for children and adolescents, this can be done by the teaching of life skills in a supportive learning environment.
How life skills are related to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) or HIV prevention as a result of crisis events?
Life skills for PTSD prevention are the knowledge and skills that are transmitted to people that need to avoid potential mental health and psycho social problems and adhere to information giving to them by social, medical, mental health practitioners. If this information is put into practice, there is the likely of reducing stress and traumatic level leading to the prevention of mental health and psycho social (MHPS) problems.
Also, Life skills for prevention are the knowledge and skills needed to avoid HIV infection and maintain healthy life style. Life skills reduce the likelihood of HIV and other Sexually Transmission Infections (STIs), thus promoting people’s self-worth and identity.
In addition, Life skills provide the education to internet with others and strengthen their problem solving skills in adhering to health messages in relation crisis events.
Furthermore, we are frightened and confused because we are unsure what the future holds for us after a crisis situation.
A major example of Life Skills (Decision Making)
Decision-making is defined as:
- deciding about something especially for example, among a group of people, more so, the group of young people
- Selection of a course of action from among two or more possible alternatives in order to arrive at a solution for a problem
Why decision–making is difficult?
There are good reasons why it is difficult to make decision especially with/for adolescents to make up their mind. Adolescence are children between the ages of 10- 19. With adolescence, there is agony of decision-making because:
- There are conflicting relationship between making choices and preserving freedom as one cannot do the first (make decision) without reducing the second (preserving freedom),
- When you choose one course of action, a host of alternative courses become closed up.
- For a young person of an age when more freedom to grow is more important, the human reality is very hard to accept
- All decisions reduce more freedom than they create.
Good decision is one of the most powerful skills that children need to learn as they progress through childhood into adulthood. But it is not a skill that is developed really on its own as children grow up.
Parents and caregivers should teach children why popular culture and technology (social media) can cause them to make poor decision and guide them in learning how to make good decision.
What are sleep problems?
These are little or no regular sleeping issues due to factors (identified or not) that is hindering you from having your usual normal sleep.
Kinds of sleeping problems:
There are different ways in which our regular sleeping problems can be affected . Some of them includes although they are not limited by any means to:
- not getting to sleep easily
- waking many times during the night
- waking very early and not being able to get back to sleep again
- poor quality of sleep
- sleeping in the daytime
- nightmares and bad dreams
Causes of sleep problems:
Things do not happen in isolation, there are always reasons for the things that happen to us. In the case of sleep problems, some of the causes could be as a result of:
- ill health
- low mood
- poor sleep pattern
- caffeine – coffee/ tea / cola drinks
Dealing with sleep problems:
In dealing with sleep problems we should first of all look at the circle of sleep which is; preparing to go to bed, being in bed and dealing with bad dreams and/ or nightmares.
Preparing to go to bed
A lot of people just go to bed without being prepared, no wonder the challenge of sleep in crisis situations increases and becomes difficult to manage. There are specific things we need to avoid to enable us dealing with our preparing to go to bed. Most of them could be best identified with the help of a specialist but the most basic ones to avoid are:
- drinking any drinks containing caffeine after lunchtime
- drinking lots of fluids
- exercising late in the evening
- watching TV, computers or our phones (the light from these makes our brain think it’s daytime!)
- doing something that takes a lot of concentration
- thinking about your problems
It is mostly recommended that the following be done in readiness to go to sleep:
- make your bedroom as quiet and comfortable as possible
- try to wind yourself down for 1-2 hours before bed
- wash before going to sleep
- read some relaxing literature before bed time
- listen to relaxing music
- try to keep very relaxed before going to bed.
- go to bed when you feel sleepy
Being in Bed
Whilst it is great to be well prepared before going to bed, it is equally important to also plan for a fruitful stay in bed. Here is little suggestion to consider while in bed.
- try not to worry about not sleeping – you’ll only keep yourself more awake
- remind yourself that you are still resting and will fall asleep when you are ready
- try not to watch the clock – put it out of sight
- gently focus on your body relaxing or your breathing to feel at peace
In cases when all of the above is being tried but not much is achieved, then try the 15 minutes rule. The 15 minutes rule states that if you are not asleep within 15 minutes GET OUT of bed go and sit somewhere else and do something quiet and relaxing. Only when you feel sleepy go back to bed and if you are not asleep again in 15 minutes GET OUT of bed again.
This is important because it will help the individual to train his/her mind to associate bed with sleep and not to being awake. We should also be careful not to sleep at the wrong time – especially when you realize that there is a newly developed unusual sleeping habits that tends to creep into already established patterns of sleeping – like sleeping during the day.
Managing our Sleep:
It is best to always decide on a time you would want to wake in the morning that seems reasonable to you. This time should be your sleep anchor which you must not change. To be able to do this effectively, you could set an alarm and get up at this time even if you have had no sleep at all. Avoid taking a nap during the day even though it will be difficult for a few days but stick at it! This process could be repeated until you start to fall asleep at a reasonable time in the evening
Dealing with Bad dreams/Nightmares
Bad dreams/nightmares are best described in the following ways:
- These can be unpleasant mental pictures which are not necessarily dangerous
- They might affect your sleep by waking you up or because you are frightened to go to sleep
- If you are having problems or worries in your life you will be more prone to nightmares
- Bad dreams are more common in people who have been through stressful experiences such as living in a camp as a result of crisis such as mudslide/flooding or working in communities affected by crisis.
- They are also common in those who have been bereaved.
Dealing with patterns of Bad Dreams/Nightmares
Lots of people are of the opinion that these are either natural trends and cannot be managed. Others are of the view that these are either attack by evil intending to have us killed or wreck some harm on us or those connected with us. These are cultural beliefs which are subject to change. It is very possible to manage our bad dreams/nightmares. This could be best done by re-scripting/rewriting your dream life using the following approach:
- In the daytime write down or go through in your mind the ‘script’ of the nightmare as it plays out in the bad dream
- Find the point just before it turns bad
- Re-write the script changing it into a happy ending
If it still persists go to the mental health unit at the nearest government hospital where you are living.
There are common problem behaviours that goes side by side with crisis situations as in the case of the recent flooding and mudslide disaster or working in a crisis affected community? These are: Anger (and) Drinking
Understanding what anger is?
- a normal human emotion.
- feeling annoyed, frustrated, irritated, or even very angry from time to time.
- expressed by shouting, yelling, or swearing, but in extreme cases it can escalate into physical aggression towards objects (e.g. smashing things) or people (self or others).
- sometimes could be a brooding, silent, or leads to withdrawal.
Things to watch out against:
- Do I found myself getting really angry at people or situations?
- When I got angry do I got really mad?
- When I got angry do I stayed angry for a very long time?
- When I got angry at someone do I really want to hit them?
- Do my anger prevented me from getting along with people as well as I’d have liked?
Benefits and problems of Anger:
There is always a good and bad effect of problem behaviours – however, what most times could be considered as good effects are only temporal and does not have a lasting impact. Whilst anger would help the individual to unwind the tension within and at the same time makes them feel high, it damages the individual’s health, expensive to maintain, results to low feeling afterwards, affects quality of sleep as well as causes relationship problems.
The costs are very much in terms of effect than the benefits; So then preventing or dealing with it is very important – It is much more important to manage ones anger than unleash it.
If and when an individual manages his/her anger, he/she is able to facilitates better sleeping pattern, becomes more focused than distracted and conserves more energy than expels it.
Sources/Causes for Anger:
Anger comes mainly as a result of a feeling of boredom, low mood, feeling anxious, having bad memories, wanting to do the same as your friends or an habitual feelings that one may have at certain days or times of the week
Can someone be able to modify problem behaviours like Anger?
Problem behaviours especially issues of anger could be effectively modified. It mainly focuses on the causes of anger that the anger reaction itself. This could be done through the following steps/practices:
- When you feel Boredom find something to do
- When you feel your mood is low, find something else to do that is enjoyable
- When you are not able to manage the above two suggestions find someone to talk to – So at best problem behaviour (specifically anger) can be modified but not managed?
There is the traffic light rule which helps to deal with anger in another way. It states that when you are really angry (which shows the red light) it means it is dangerous to go ahead, therefore you must stop right there as is the same rule for a car. Wait for a moment until you feel the orange light is on (which requires be ready to act). In this case the orange light requires the individual get ready to calm down, breathe out – blow the anger away. And take 2 deep breaths to wait for the green light which instructs you to either go away or distract yourself until you feel calmer.
What effect does anger has on an individual?
Anger affects an individual’s body, behaviour and thoughts and when it persists and is not controlled then it becomes a serious problem and would require someone to see a mental health worker for specialized support.
Where can these supports be found?
Every government hospital has a mental health worker – you can access a free of cost care for such talking sessions. It is better to seize such opportunities than to allow it to totally destroy your valued relationships.